We’re part of the MomPulse Community on YouTube and each week we’re asked a question that we respond to on video. This week we were asked to list 5 reasons we’re great Moms. Yvonne and I each have 5 reasons, which means there are 10 listed here – plus a bonus one at the end.
1. I think my kids’ Education is really important and I do what I can to make sure it’s great. I used to be the Uber-volunteeer (and famously burned out on that), but just because I don’t volunteer doesn’t mean I can’t make a difference in my kids’ education. I carefully pick the schools they’ll attend and make sure to enrich their schooling with real-life experiences that will help them become wise men.
2. I care about my kids’ health. What my kids eat is important to me so I avoid foods that contain high-fructose corn syrup and trans fats. Our good friend Ashley Koff has us counting the number of colors we eat each day, and that’s such a great first step in healthy living.
3. I care about my kids’ social and emotional well-being and growth. I want to raise Men you can talk about their feelings! I think it’s my job as a parent to guide my kids through things they can’t understand or process. When they were tiny, almost any emotion would overwhelm them, and now, even though they have more coping skills, I feel it’s still important for me to be there. Not to bubble wrap them, but rather to show them that life’s challenges can be overcome.
4. I treat my kids as individuals. There is no One-Size-Fits-All to this parenting thing. Each kid is their own person and needs to be treated that way. One of my son’s needs more help coping with meeting new people, and the other needs to be supported as he heads into his teenage years. Each of them get a slightly different version of me because that’s the Mom they each need.
5. I let my kids play video games. I happen to think there are great benefits to this type of play, including the ability to fail and recover over and over again in each game. Video game playing hasn’t led to any actual violence in my household or from my kids in their daily lives. And they’re learning critical thinking skills and non-linear problem-solving. Two skills that any parent would want their kid to have.
After making this video, I asked myself the question again, ‘What makes me a great mom?” And I thought about the things I do for my kids like teach them to be good people, stress the importance of education, cook healthy food for them, get them outside in nature, and not take things too seriously. But is that what makes someone a great mom? I don’t know. I don’t know if I’m a great mom, but I do know that I try really hard and I love my kids more than anything.
We both love our kids so much it makes our hearts feel like bursting open. And that’s what makes us great Moms.
Sarah Auerswald and Yvonne Condes are the co-Founders of MomsLA, a Community of the Top Mom Bloggers in Los Angeles.